Let's talk about love, son

Title of this Blog is taken form DNA, Sunday Edition, Dated:Dec-5-2010,Page No.:11 " It's Personal | The Mag"

http://epaper.dnaindia.com/epapermain.aspx     (Page-11)

Just have a view over the questions that I am going to ask you underneath.....

Just Imagine - A Random Day, and your Mom start a conversation “Son, Let’s talk about your Sex Life or How many Girl Friends do you have or How many Break-Ups you underwent till yet or what are your plans for this weekend or so"

While writing this blog I am feeling really embarrassed but i just wanted to make sure that whatever i am feeling is same as, what others are feeling while talking over this issue, or they feel that it's right that Parents may treat their child as their friend and must share what has happened with them and what they have done when they were aged as we are today etc....

Let me ask you differently, you do have few friends, some are casual to you and with some you are formal or we can say Hi-Hello type, so if a formal friend start talking to you casually over issues that you want to keep personal or up to yourself and he start sharing incidences from his life and ask about yours, so after few sets of conversation you may feel casual with him, so answer me that after becoming casual, do you respect him as you previously do....

Before you come out with a answer let me put one more question for you, just think that we do respect to those who are far from us or with whom we don’t wish to share, what’s going in your mind or in our life, far means not far in distance but you are unable to approach them directly or i can say to that "power distance", more will be the distance, more powerful you feel that person is or not....

Take my example “ Whenever I want permission for anything, which is not a Routine course or action, I ask to my mom over it and then say her to ask from pop, so the distance between me and my father is much and I need  a mediator to grant permission for me but by this way, I do have some fear from my father, even though I know, I am not doing anything wrong but still there is a sword on my neck but now let me take you to the other side of the coin that, if me and my father start talking over this things casually then maybe I won’t respect him that much, which I do now, or maybe I won’t take him so seriously and try to amend the rules as per my needs.

Now answer my Questions

First question that, do you really feel that if we start taking to parents freely, we are taking right step or decreasing the power distance is good for our enrichment.

Second Question: Do you really feel that the concept which i am talking about Power Distance is only a theory and have nothing to do with reality

Third Question: Tell me that are we approaching towards safe future with less values, no ethics and even though we can talk our ethics for hours, do we really inhibit it in our behavioral traits.

I am really skeptical that what we are going to give to our upcoming generations as Heritage...

The Biggest Problem with today's Generation is how to teach Values to their young ones when they have none............

Just Ponder over it............